Start listening more closely to the advice your friends and family are giving you -- it's more complicated than you think, and a lot of what they are saying to you is in some sort of code. You can pick up on the undertones if your listening skills are as good as they usually are. Of course, you do not have to do exactly as they say -- but their insight is incredibly valuable. Be prepared to hear things that aren't exactly pleasant. But a lot of the time, the truth is unpleasant.